I don’t have the time. I don’t have the money. It’s not the right time. I need to think about it. I can never make it work. I’m too busy.
Do these sound familiar? Being in network marketing I hear these all the time. I’ve said them myself! I’ve said them on numerous occasions and for different reasons and there’s probably hundreds more! The problem is, I’ve never actual meant them. I mean, I thought I did. But the truth was, they were all an excuse that was really a mask for the actual truth. Mostly the answer was based in fear.
I fear I don’t have the time. I fear I don’t have the money. I fear it’s not the right time. I fear making a decision (so I need to think about it, and think about it, and think about it). I fear I can’t make it work. I fear I’m too busy.
Sound more accurate? So how do we go about finding our actual reason and stop hiding behind excuses? Let’s dissect a few of these. You can let me know if any of them resonate with you.
I don’t have the time. Say the commitment someone has asked you to make is one hour per month. Can you honestly say that you don’t have one hour per month to devote to something that *seemingly* is important to you. Now perhaps it’s actually NOT important to you, then you need to say that. But if it IS important to you, then you need to cut out something that isn’t as pressing and give the hour to the item that is. You may suddenly find out that you have loads of time to devote to this.
I don’t have the money. Do you literally not have the money in your bank account? Credit card availability? Would committing to the item in question prevent you from food shopping? Would it prevent you from having heat in your home? A car in your driveway? Or….would making this *seemingly important* commitment prevent you from eating out 3 times this week? Would it prevent you from having that $5 latte 5 days a week for a month? Maybe from getting your nails done for two months? Which item is actually more important to you?
It’s not the right time. When exactly will the right time be? Why is now not the right time? Is there an actual “thing” preventing you from doing something right now? Perhaps one of the other excuses would piggy back that it’s not the right time. More people have said “I should have done this a long time ago” once they do the thing that they are so hesitant about doing at first.
Do these sound about right? Think about the thing you are being asked to do. The thing you say you want to do. Now really think about your excuses as to why you’re not doing it. What if you just bit the bullet and did it now? What would it feel like? What could you accomplish by committing to this? Could this change your life for the better? What do you want?
There are lots of variables of course but the bottom line is we tend to makes excuses for things without knowing the real reason behind our choices. Perhaps taking a few moments and really thinking about your excuse may in fact lead you to a different decision. And may lead you to great things. Imagine that…